Fractured Phrases

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It’s only money

is easy to say when you have some.

This too shall pass

only applies to the things that do, not the things that don’t.

Get over it

is harder to do when you feel flat under it.

Cheer up

is hard to master when you are down.

I’ll be praying for you

is only good when it is real and not just a God bless you after a sneeze.

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22 Responses to Fractured Phrases

  1. So true! You forgot the ones I seem to hear a lot: “Calm down,” when I’m most infuriated) and “Don’t worry about it.” (Just as some unavoidable ruin is rising up over me.)

  2. reinkat says:

    You are so absolutely right–and so is Christine’s comment.
    I’ve been thinking about this in the past week:
    The thing about cliches like that is to think first, and not to rely on them, because seriously, anything can be inappropriate depending on the circumstands. The day after Thanksgiving my friend lost her daughter to cancer. Another friend’s husband suddenly passed away 2 days ago of a heart attack. Wishing either of them a “Merry Christmas” is, well, not the best thing to say to them right now, not as is.
    I guess one has to consider the feelings behind the speaker’s comment, often it is heartfelt and well-meant.

    • Ouch. So sad. That is an awkward one. I think often, we get caught up in ritual and really forget the meaning behind what we are saying. If we considered our words more carefully, we would catch ourselves before wishing merriment to a fresh grieving soul!

  3. jmgoyder says:

    Brilliant! And what about “I know exactly how you feel.” Ha!

    • Yeah! Sometimes (very seldom) a person’s experience might closely approximate another’s experience, but it is never really true! And when it is said, though meant well, it diminishes the person’s feeling and pain. You are not the only one to feel this, so you are not worthy of unique sympathy or compassion. Sometimes it is best to jst say nothing than stumble all over people’s hearts with muddy and spiked boots!

  4. I have heard all of them and sadly not one helped to hear over and over mouths can be quiet and HUGS will work better in MOST CASES 🙂

    HUGS

    • And there are many more. In movies, I always groan when a character promises that something will be fine–turn out OK. Real life is not always like that, and I don’t believe in make phony promises to anyone., especially kids. Am I ranting now? 🙂

  5. dorannrule says:

    Truth is better than fiction.

  6. pattisj says:

    A good reminder to pay attention to our words.

  7. Reblogged this on Christine's Collection and commented:
    Lilly has come up with a good list of what NOT to say in the way of consolation.

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