The basic meaning of care is to grieve, to experience sorrow, to cry out with [ .. . . ] We tend to look at caring as an attitude of the strong toward the weak, of the powerful toward the powerless, of the haves toward the have-nots [.. . . ] Still, when we honestly ask ourselves which persons in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving much advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a gentle and tender hand. The friend who can be silent [ . . . ] is the friend who cares.
A p r o n h e a d -- Lilly Green 
This touches my heart. So true; there is no cure or fix for grieving.
I really like so much of what Nouwen has written.