“Hi, how’s it goin’?”
My “How are you?”–if it is more than a verbal high-5–opens up the possibility that you might not be well and might have more than 3 seconds to explain the reason why.
And yet, we really don’t want to take that kind of time.
And yet, we don’t want to appear unfriendly.
And yet . . .
so we continue to play a game that no one plays well.
I think we need to come up with different questions.